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		<title>How Do I Decide What to Do?: Making Choices before They Make You!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[For each task, the end result may be different but the concept is the same: Action is required to get started.  All of the thinking in the world is meaningless without actions to manifest those thoughts and a postponed choice leads to postponed actions while postponed actions are a sure way to fall short of meeting a deadline.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In regards to time management and decision making trials&#8230;.  when I was in high school, I had an Advanced English class junior year, the International Baccalaureate type.  I went to a highly academic school that tried to kill me or make be stronger. I was great at English except for when it became time to do a thesis paper.  The problems were #1, I only halfway understood the purpose of this type of paper and #2, once I got the point of the purpose, I as a perfectionist, so I had the hardest time just trying to choose a Thesis Statement.  </p>
<p>This problem of not being able to make a choice, a commitment to an idea, topic or overall thesis statement kept me from getting past the very first step to creating a paper.   My teacher at the time, whom I didn&#8217;t really like too much said to me, &#8220;You can&#8217;t finish this paper if you never start!&#8221; and although this seems like the most obvious thing, for me, the statement was ground breaking.  I could never start because I was too worried about the outcome of my choice and I would never be able to truly judge the outcome if I never had one.  I suffered from, what one person in my life later referred to as, &#8220;Analysis Paralysis.&#8221; I was too busy trying to be perfect, to actually make any movements at all.  </p>
<p>Analysis Paralysis leads to a lot of thinking and very little action, thereby causing every single action you try to take, only take longer and as an effect you find that you finish task just before the bell or even more stressful, too late.</p>
<p>To solve my problem for the thesis paper, I had to solve my two problems and I did.  First, I needed to truly come to understand the structure of the thesis paper (do your research), and second, I needed to just do it..start writing, something, anything, everything and weed through it later,( Just try something, GET STARTED! ASAP! commit an action, MAKE a MOVE!). If what I had done didn&#8217;t fit, I had time to fix it later unlike when I spent most of my time on  thought.  </p>
<p>I would type out a bunch of quotes from the books that would seem to fit my topic, things that might be what I was looking for and then at the end I would sift through everything and piece things together to see if they were any good. After I&#8217;d gathered the information or the meat of my work, I would come up with a thesis  and a title for the dish (the paper).  Although here was more action involved, it was easier than trying to guess somewhat blindly.  Making a choice without action is like trying to decide if you like the taste of a food by simply looking at it.  It cannot be done, although may people convince themselves that it can; one can only guess or infer.</p>
<p>Making a choice is something like coming up with a thesis, you won&#8217;t know what the best choice is until you have put some actions behind your thoughts and check out the end result.</p>
<p>For each task, the end result may be different but the concept is the same: Action is required to get started.  All of the thinking in the world is meaningless without actions to manifest those thoughts and a postponed choice leads to postponed actions while postponed actions are a sure way to fall short of meeting a deadline.</p>
<p>Figuring out how to get around your dilemma is up to you, but I think joining a community of people who are about moving forward and progressive actions is a good first active step!  </p>
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<div id="attachment_130" class="wp-caption aligncenter" style="width: 310px"><a href="http://20somethingandthecity.com/blog1/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/IMG_2710.jpg"><img src="http://20somethingandthecity.com/blog1/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/IMG_2710-300x225.jpg" alt="" title="Contemplation" width="300" height="225" class="size-medium wp-image-130" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Making a choice is easier said than done,  but a result is gaurateed if you make a choice or let it make you.</p></div>
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		<description><![CDATA[Welcome to  20 Somethings and The City!  I am  sorry to see some of Our previous post have disappeared into the abyss of the world wide web, however we are up and running again!  Here for a fresh new start,  gradually we may post some of our old stuff again but as for now we [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://20somethingandthecity.com/blog1/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/20066_464775730507_522120507_11193165_5667542_s.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-6" title="20 Something Solutions" src="http://20somethingandthecity.com/blog1/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/20066_464775730507_522120507_11193165_5667542_s.jpg" alt="" width="130" height="95" /></a>Welcome to  20 Somethings and The City!  I am  sorry to see some of Our previous post have disappeared into the abyss of the world wide web, however we are up and running again!  Here for a fresh new start,  gradually we may post some of our old stuff again but as for now we are happy to be back and as Adre 3000 Said, &#8221; So Fresh and so Clean&#8230; Clean!&#8221;</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Welcome!<br />
Now that I’ve begun my 30’s, I can tell one and all that even with all the time and preparation put into me becoming a well-rounded and educated adult, my 20’s were still the hardest times of my life.<br />
It was fun, yet chaotic and filled with so many, &#8220;what ifs&#8221;, and, what Charles Dickens referred to as &#8221; The best of times and the worst of times&#8221;, but what got me through those times and will continue to elevate me are my friends, my family and a slew of books, magazine articles, t.v. shows, movies, and music created by the most talented people of our generation and generations past.         This time in our lives is an era that will set the foundation for who we are going to be and what we are going to achieve, as individuals and as a group. I want this website to be a meeting of the minds and a source of positivity for us, a place for us to get things off of our chest, and solve problems, a place for us to be honest about ourselves and our world, because it is through respect, honesty, and communication that we will make change. We can support each other and express our passionate, driven, semi-depressed, creative selves and create the light at the end of the tunnel.     Our generation inherits many wonderful technologies and all of the problems that go along with them.  We both benefit and suffer from what our parents&#8217; and grandparents&#8217; generations have done before we arrived, but our time is here and we&#8217;ve got things to do, and a whole lot to say.  Think, Speak, Write and Unite!<br />
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